Why Babies Shouldn't Self-Soothe
The Importance of Providing Comfort and Support
One of the most trying situations a parent can go through is witnessing their child cry. Although it is natural to want to comfort and calm your infant, some experts argue that letting them soothe themselves can be harmful to their emotional growth.
The ability of a baby to calm themselves without the help of an adult is known as self-soothing. It is frequently advocated as a means of fostering independence and sound sleeping practices. Yet, research has shown that allowing infants to self-soothe can have a number of unfavorable effects, such as increased anxiety and weak bonding.
Babies are born with an instinctual need for connection and comfort. They rely on their caregivers to provide a sense of security and safety in the world. When a baby cries, it is their way of communicating a need for help or attention. They can’t use their words, so they communicate the only way they know how: by crying. If caregivers consistently ignore a baby's cries, it can lead to feelings of abandonment and mistrust, which can have lasting effects on a baby's emotional development.
Instead of encouraging self-soothing, experts recommend providing comfort and support to babies when they cry. This can be done through methods such as holding, rocking, and singing. These actions promote feelings of safety and security, which can help a baby develop a strong attachment to their caregiver.
Another alternative to self-soothing is co-sleeping. Co-sleeping is sleeping in the same bed or area as your baby, ideally in the same room. As a result, your baby may feel safe and at ease, which could enhance emotional development and sleep patterns.
Every baby is different, therefore it's vital to remember that what works for one baby might not work for another. It's critical to realize how fundamental it is to reassure and support your infant when they cry. By doing this, you both improve your bond with your child and help them in developing emotionally healthy behaviors.
Babies should not self-soothe. Instead, parents should provide comfort and support to their babies when they cry. This can be done through methods such as holding, rocking, and singing, as well as co-sleeping. By doing so, parents can promote healthy emotional development and a strong attachment between themselves and their baby. Remember, it is okay to seek guidance and support from friends, family, or a postpartum doula to help you in times of stress or when you need to step back and take a break.